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Life Coach BPD Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, A.J. Mahari can help you gain more awareness and insight into your situation, relationships, issues, goals, and what is and isn’t working in your life and help you to learn and build skills to create the positive, healing, and healthy change you want, need, and deserve in your life.
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We live in a complicated world today and each one of us needs to learn to connect with his or her authentic self and create positive healthy change in his or her life. A big part of what I do as a Life/BPD Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach is help people to gain awareness and insight, ask needed questions, and learn not only new coping skills and tools but also new ways of thinking that will reflect your on-going journey toward a happier, healthier life. The more each one of us feels connected to his or her authentic self, the more we can have compassion and empathy for self and then also for others. It is that authentic connection to self missing or incomplete in so many people’s lives that makes it difficult if not impossible to spiritually know and feel that we are all connected. There is such freeing empowerment in the living of this deeply profound connection – a connection that will teach you gratitude, radical acceptance, mindfulness, and the importance and power of the here and now.
Unresolved Issues Eclipse All That the Present Moment Offers
According to A.J., “Much of what we experience is clouded by past experience, unless and until we are ready to release it. What is lost to this focus on the past and to all the unresolved issues of the past eclipses the richness of all that we can come to know and live from and through emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. Each one of us is challenged with new choices and new decisions each step of the way in our lives as our self-awareness increases. Self-awareness that is the stepping-stone to self-improvement that is the pathway to personal enlightenment. A personal enlightenment that will continue to show us the way to our own individual authenticity. Know that you are worthy and that you matter. If you feel that you aren’t worthy or that you don’t matter, if you aren’t sure who you are, if you don’t like yourself very much, trust that there are unresolved issues that are trapping you in old thought patterns that keep old and young feelings alive and active in the here-and-now. I hope you will join me on a journey of awakening to each and every present moment. I hope that you will find something in all that I write about and talk about helpful to you on your own personal journey.”
Control Of Self Versus Control of Others or Things Outside of Self
A.J.’s philosophy when it comes to control is this: “Control is essentially an illusion. There are thoughts, feelings, and actions, that each one of us, as individuals, have a responsibility to marshall in ways that do not impinge upon the rights or dignity of anyone else.
To think that we can control, emotionally, what we usually know, intellectually, darn well we have little to no control over, is to choose to be unhappy and take action in the pursuit of misery.
Control of one’s self is the ultimate. Control of one’s self involves learning to build emotional competence and develop the psychosocial skills necessary to gain emotional and self mastery. Much of what one might think is self control is really surrender to a mindful, accepting, path of least resistance. Trying to control anything about anyone else is to deny yourself and that other person the dignity of being on the unfolding path of the journey that belongs exclusively to his or her soul in
this life.”
The Journey That Life Is
A.J. Mahari is a woman who has been on and remains on a incredible journey in her own life. She is a firm believer that it is important to trust and have faith that life is unfolding as it is meant to, whether one finds him or herself in a valley or climbing to a mountain’s peak of realization and achievement.
According to A.J.’s philosophy of life – “Life is a journey not a destination. It is an unfolding journey that finds more of itself through conscious awareness and a mindful radical acceptance. Life is a journey for each human being alive. Each one of us has to make the choice to engage that journey and to patiently trust its process. We cannot control every facet of this journey. We can not make it speed up or slow down. What we can choose to do is engage it as fully as we can and make the most conscious and aware choices that we can. Life is a sacred journey. Life, in the process of living it, is as much about learning and growing, changing, evolving, and maturing toward as much peace, happiness, and balance as we can find, hold, practice, and achieve as it is about anything else.”
Mahari invites you to, “Remember to be a human being and not a human doing. Remember to seek to know more about who you are what that means and why it all matters. Too many people lose too much of this sacred journey of life to what it is that they do or seek to do. There is a lot to be said for simply being – after all, perfect speed is just being
there.”
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